Kimi Shy

Photo by Clarke Sanders on Unsplash                                      Every Woman (Tear Eye 2) There is this throwback jam that still plays in my head when I put on my big girl heels to hold a training, anchor a meeting or execute a project.  It’s Mama Whitney singing: "I'm every woman it's all in me Anything you want done baby I'll do it naturally" Even when  I am in those sexy heels to take "Daddy" to church or maybe those trainers to hit the road or the slippers to wash plate or cook or no shoes at all to get down and play with my little girl. I am all these women. I am the antagonistic Stanger across the room who you figure is too overbearing who you figure has an unhappy home because I don't fit into your box. I am the wife who allows her husband introduce her to all his friends and who may sit and smile when his acquaintance makes a comm...

Photo by  hannah grace  on  Unsplash Have you ever watched how a little girl takes a compliment?  Have you ever just looked as she absorbs it? "You look beautiful" you say to her. She smiles because she knows you speak the truth after all why you will lie about something so true like her beauty. "You are a smart girl" you say and she looks at you in a matter of fact way and says "I know, I can do this on my own." I have this friend I went to school with, besides the fact that she kept me in constant awe because she was like a little girl, in that, she knew how to take a compliment.  You never heard her say things like "oh, stop it" nope. No false mindset here. If she figured she looked good and you told her, you are only validating what she already knew so she says thank you and she moves on like it's her right (the outrage!).  So many times I watch as grown women (including me) struggle to be adored mo...

They said her eye don tear She has seen too much She has done too much Her voice is the loudest now Her steps the heaviest now They say her eye has tear Her  skin is leather Her throat sore She has shouted too much Too tough, Too hard  All the way around her head Her eye don tear No innocence any more She does not do what she is to do Ego oyibo has blinded her Her eye has tear Her hands are too hard  Her back too bent Her eye don tear She prices too long Mama haggler mama hustler That is not how woman is meant to be Tear eye every where -YD-

Is it my responsibility as a mother to be friends maybe even best friends with my child? I have noticed that some parents try more to be friends with their children and in the process neglect being parents.  What's the difference between a parent and a friend in the strictest sense of the word.  A friend is someone who most likely smokes shit with you, you have similar if not the same goals. Most likely if its real friendship you cover up each other's messes and you are honest so basically if one gets caught, the other will be right beside them or maybe be the emergency contact to bail them out. You make similar silly mistakes andget wise together A parent on the other hand is one who in the biological sense brings you into the world. In the normal sense it's their responsibility to provide for, teach and guide you so you are of some use to the world. If they are there for you to talk to and can afford periodically to buy you candy, sit with you when you are i...

Jane and James met outside the office of the Head Of Department of Economics after she had turned down his offer to perform 'certain acts' to boost her grades in "Econ 211”. She was quite upset and James offered what she needed, a listening ear and adequate connections to the Vice Chancellor to reprimand the HOD. It was love at about 6th sight since he had to complete the doing of the favour to get her interested. They stayed together through it all. Even when there was the cheating scandal or the times he gave her STD. Fast forward to 2017, they are still together, he hasn't yet popped the question because he is waiting for his business to win the contract.  She offers 'discount wife' services like cooking, sex, moral and spiritual support. He is periodically unfaithful, emotionally overbearing, but he supports her and God fearing, and she believes she loves him. He is of course Christian, attending her Church and her parents know and tolerate him....

I sit in his lap as he tells me why he thinks I am the most beautiful girl in the world. We go out to do stuff to together with me taking premium seats better than those my millions of brothers get. I am both queen and princess here in his castle. I am entitled to his love his care and his attention, that's what makes me. So can you blame me when no man measures up? because nobody can make me the idol I think I am, the centre of his world just like my Daddy... Me and my Daddy Issues  I watch him as he drives away leaving her crying. I try to console her and she does try to be strong for me, but my hugs are ice where his were fire. She can't help herself as she sobs at night because he is gone. When I speak to him on the phone  he dances around the issue but not even I can make him come back so she can smile again. He has another family now a place where he calls home. Another little girl who is the world to him. I am the dregs of the forgotten trying to mend ...

Collector: I know she was talking about me, I didn't hear her say my name in the conversation but she said something and I knew it was me. People are rubbish, friends are disloyal. She will soon come to my table and smile and act like we are friends, but she spends all her time talking about me then they will say I am always angry. In fact I am not angry; I will just treat her in this office like she is a fly. Giver: Why is she upset now. What have I done again. She is acting like I don't exist but I can see her going out of her way to make me know she is ignoring me. Oh well... Collector: He knew I wanted him to keep it here. What kind of person looks at you when you are talking and doesn't hear what you are saying? That's how he is... that's how last year the same thing happened. How am I expected to be happy and normal in this house with someone who doesn't listen. He says he honestly forgot but isn't that what they all say? Giver: Ho...