Kimi Shy

Photo by Clarke Sanders on Unsplash                                      Every Woman (Tear Eye 2) There is this throwback jam that still plays in my head when I put on my big girl heels to hold a training, anchor a meeting or execute a project.  It’s Mama Whitney singing: "I'm every woman it's all in me Anything you want done baby I'll do it naturally" Even when  I am in those sexy heels to take "Daddy" to church or maybe those trainers to hit the road or the slippers to wash plate or cook or no shoes at all to get down and play with my little girl. I am all these women. I am the antagonistic Stanger across the room who you figure is too overbearing who you figure has an unhappy home because I don't fit into your box. I am the wife who allows her husband introduce her to all his friends and who may sit and smile when his acquaintance makes a comm...

Source Today lets talk about our old standing obsession with beauty being a certain way. Right from when I turned 13 I  had a body image problem. I came to realize recently that I have never allowed myself enjoy the body I had at any given time.  Before I had my baby I was a comfortable and healthy size,  I didn't know or appreciate this not because no one told me but just because I didn't  see it myself. There is no amount of comfort that you will find in another person's words if you can't find it in yourself first. 3 years ago I got these beautiful pair of jeans as a present they were too big for me at that time  I kept thinking I will never be that big "God forbid" meanwhile  at that size I still was  not comfortable, I always wanted something thinner.  The thing is I wasn't aware that this was a body image thing.  There is nothing wrong with wanting to do better and working for it, but when it affects your...