Kimi Shy

      This one is dedicated to all the Nigerian girls who can relate. Here's to you.                                                    It's Friday afternoon, the day before Christmas, I am dreading getting up because I have been ignoring my mother's toxic side eye since and now I am just tired. I know how to complain well and I might even have a PhD in it so I turn on my complaining spirit and face it on my sister who is just desperately tired of hearing me groan. ’’Nwa stand up let's just start the work so we can have some breathing space before midnight mass". So we get up and go to the kitchen where my Mum has already stated defrosting ram meat, turkey and chicken for Christmas day. She tells us to get useful frying the buns and ‘puff puff’ from the dough she has already prepared and if we are lucky ‘chin chin’ is ...

Welcome to 2017 (as if I am the gate keeper to the year. lol) in the spirit of new things, I have some questions that have been on my mind and I will love to share with you.  I wrote this post late last year, but i figured the best way to start a new page is to ask questions then spend the whole time finding answers.  I read somewhere that the questions we ask ourselves improve our experience of any given situation. If you don't fully understand something you cannot fully expose yourself to something you don't understand. So based on my quest to fully understand life I  have a few questions to ask and though  they are not ground breaking, they are questions I have and will like to know your answers to. Caution you will find no answers here...👀👀 What is shame and why do we have it? is it a reflex of our minds to help us not do the stuff we have imposed on ourselves as wrong? Why is it that people who work hard do not get any returns but...

                                                   If you are an avid oyibo movie watcher like me, then you have heard of what they call, the American Dream. It means the idea that anyone in the United States has the chance to achieve success and prosperity.  I figure the dream runs along different lines for different folks, for some it might be being a successful father, mildly busy but extremely available mother, two children, a dog  (or some other animal)and a great white house with a fence of some sort (this is just the way I assume it will look) or it could be building and running your own fortune 500 company from starting in a garage or your bedroom. This dream is supported by a system that makes education up to high school level free and compulsory and provides opportunities to be held on to and grow. This dream is achieved by some an...

Beware of Long Post :D                                        Effiong  was not made for school all he wanted to do was play football, but his father won't let him play, he was meant to be a doctor in this life and cure his father arthritis.  So while he stared blankly at the huge  textbooks his father had procured from the kind second hand book seller, Effiong dreamt about Kanu, Maradonna and all those great men who chased around a little ball to put in a hole.  One day he skipped school and was playing with his friend on a dusty field where the village people dried clothes on the weekends, one man walked up to him and told him he was a good player and asked to see his father. After much resistance from the parents and a few consultations with the local prophet, he was allowed to go ahead to play football. He finally made it nationally and internationally ear...

This post is inspired by a chapter in an audio book I listened to sometime ago and I decided to write my own version of how technology is planning to kill me.                 Picture 1 The other day I was carrying my daughter who is 2 now. Big little woman. She was restless in my arms but won't let me put her down unfortunately, I happened to also be holding my phone. At some point I felt the phone slip, for a split second I considered dropping my darling baby who I nearly tore down heaven's gate for to save my phone that was basically an after thought during one of the husband's excited moments.  Of course I held onto my daughter but I won't stay here and lie to you that I didn't think about instantly dropping her without warning.  I don't even remember when it happened that I started loving this device so much. I can't even remember the last time I had an emotion or thought that I felt something epic and didn't feel the...

I read somewhere that if you don't want a woman to decide give her a choice. I hate having to choose, you hear people shouting how they want a choice but when they get it, they become unhappy. Research even shows that we are a generation of sadder people because we have more choice. Why does choice make us so unhappy? It's because for every choice you make there is an opportunity cost, that is the alternative you had to let go of  so that you can make the choice you did, how do you know that the one you didn't pick is not the one that will complete you forever. Scenario 1: Ralph had to make a choice, Oge was a beautiful woman but she was stubborn, she wouldn't let him land before she jumped to conclusions but she was beautiful and she could cook, his mother also liked her very much but she was the kind of girl who would make a decision and inform him later, not because she wanted to undermine him but because that's just how she was and she could not pray for...

It's been ages since I took the time to write anything.  I find this very relaxing but I have not relaxed in like 300 years (really 4weeks and it feels like300 years). Today we will be talking about how  we are all big fat liars by claiming we want honesty. You know how people always claim that they like honesty but 99.9% of the time if someone is brutally honest with you, you can't take it.  you will be thinking "why are you so mean?". Simple human decency does not really make room for brutal honesty. Imagine if you told your boss straight out "sir you have body odour" out of the blue with no back ground and he is a guy that was insisting that he likes honesty in all his employees. How do you reckon he is going to react?                                         Women especially claim they like honesty but if someone steps up to you and says "that's the ugliest dress...