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Woman March 3: Pretty



,Little girl, happy voice, hope is the word, see something pretty
Daddy's Girl, going to be great, happy heart, so you think I am pretty
,Painful cramps, broken heart, busy mind, don't know that I am pretty
,Big nose, brown skin, brown eyes, nice girl, do you think I am pretty
Flat tummy, long legs, thick glasses, slow speech, do you think I am pretty,
No food, bitter tea, first class, Glass smile, so I can be pretty,
Big bed, late night, hot breath, hate myself, but do you think I am pretty,
Smart mind, quick speech, read all, don't matter, do you think I am pretty,
Great heart, nice smile, your girl, do you think I am pretty,
Hate me, love me, leave me, but do you think I am pretty,
.Found my myself, happy again, hopeful again, so I know I am pretty

 - YD


"Whatever role we had to play, whether it was the tom boy, the wall flower or the blooming beauty, We took it on like  champs"


I think it came from the fact that no one really paid attention (except my mother since she had only 2 girls anyway) being a middle child an all that. Pretty was not a word I had to deal with until I made it into mixed school at age 13.

Let me just tell you that this is a very complicated age to throw a girl into the midst of young girls who happen to be discovering themselves in the midst of boys. The girls were not so friendly, neither were the boys to think about it, but I was comfortable until I had to assume the role of pretty girl to get attention from boys (stop judging we all did this).

Thinking back now, all the constant comparing of yourself to other people and the worrying that you will never grow into the beauty you hope to be are not things that should be mixing with hormones.

But we grew up and we became women with women issues, from worries on how to get the boy you like to speak to you, to worries on how to get the man you like to speak to you and worries on how to kick ass at the office or in your chosen business or profession.

From how to find a way to sneak out to the party to how to find a way to sneak out of the party so people will take you seriously.

From how to steal your mum's nail polish and paint the nails with no one noticing, to swallowing vitamins to get the nails to what they used to be.

From how to be slim and pretty to how to... oh wait still be slim and pretty. 

From how to get other people to like you to how to get yourself to like you.

Our problems change shape and grow with us but if there is one thing that no one can give you that you realise as you go from girl to woman it's that pretty has always been inside you and only you can bring it out.

Cheers to all the Pretty Girls: May you grow to be Pretty Women who bring life to all around you.



xoxo









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