Vals through the ages

                                  

Before SS1, Valentine's day was a day when my Father made us all dress to the nines and he took us to the "swankyest" restaurant in whatever town we were in usually Abuja or Calabar. Fast forward to senior secondary I changed schools from an all girls boarding to a mixed boarding. I became aware of what the holiday meant (the whole lovers situation). In an all girls school, Vals day was just a low key day for "school daughters and mothers". In the mixed school though it was a whole other monster. The night before, girls stayed awake talking about all the boys that liked them and who they will be expecting gifts from. Come morning, girls will go to class holding their breath hoping that the boy they have a crush on has finally grown a pair and put something nice in their locker. This day also was also the unfortunate day that boys picked to play practical jokes on girls like put mud cakes or rotten food in beautiful packages. But it was all in good fun.

                              

In university, girls had become aware. We knew what was up and the boys used to go out of their way to make things happen. Poor boys will be saving their pocket money from being of the semester so that their babe can brag to her friends and maybe they can get some that night too. I had one boyfriend who expected me to pat him on the back and say "nice job daddy" because he got me a small teddy bear (I didn't understand why a semi grown woman ;) needed this particular gift) or some other weird thing along those lines; like a mug that read "happy valentine's day" with a plastic flower in it. I mean my expectations were low but never that low. I can bet you they still sell those ugly teddies. I found this really annoying because I was coming from a background of non alcoholic wine (blah), cakes, chocolate, bracelets and wrist watches in my exboyfriend archives.

Before I go on though, what's all this about women receiving gifts on Vals day and not giving back. LMAO we don't even try. I can count on one hand the number of times I have heard a woman say what do I get my BF/Hubby/etc for Valentine's day. LOL #Valssosexist. Ladies we need to step up ... or not.

When you are now a single working or serving girl and looking to mingle Vals can be a drag. All your girl friends will be flying here and there and spending the night here and there. So here is my ultimate Valentine's day coping tip for the single Spend the time with family or friends. My father has always been a spectacular valentine so I can never really say I spent it alone.

The way I see it though, you can eat chocolate on any day and drink wine on any day, go to dinner and do special things on any day so Valentine's day is not really about the love you have for that one person it's about all the people you love around you. So besides Christmas and Easter whose importance is established for obvious reasons, my favourite day is the "Festival of Koyona (My birthday)". That is a day that is not up for any sort of discussion.

But I can let valentine's day slide because it's like that guy you meet that keeps telling you of all the miracles you will experience when he gets you alone. Then you get together and you are like I could have had a much better time at my dentist.

Happy Valentine's Day to all of you who read my messy point of view I gats real Love for you.

                   

xo.