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Hello everyone, hope you are having a great week etc. I am so excited because  I am a year older today I do not have a problem with saying my age I am turning a few years older than 20 I have done this calculation over and over again so that I am sure that I am not adding anymore years LoL. Besides the scaring of child birth, I feel the same as I did at 20, honestly. I would have put up my age but my mother keeps insisting that a lady doesn't share these things. I am trying to be one.

I wish age was nothing but a number but it really isn't, it's great when a 50 year old looks 23 (as If) but you see you have seen 50 years, 1 long life time with 50 different years of experiences so don't say it doesn't matter.

Getting older is fantastic, you know more than you knew before and most times you forget what you knew before. I am old enough now to make my own decisions but this does not always work in  my favour,  don't you just miss the days when people made the tough calls for you then you could blame them if something went wrong? Now you bear the full force of the mistakes that you make, if you make one bad call you bear the consequences. Now you understand why your mother kept shouting "No", every time and saying "because I said so", I know it's hard to accept but she knows better.

I know that people are a bit wary of aging there are people who are actually afraid of it, precautions taken to slow aging include umbrellas every day so no sun exposure, thousand of Naira on skin creams promising everlasting youth, eating only leaves so that the organs do not age and reading all the millions of articles around on how to age gracefully. We can't fool nature though. All the loss of elasticity and light in the skin will happen somehow. I guess we need to do all these things so that we feel, somehow we are in control.
Here are some things I have learnt in my time here (note I am not old yet but I know a few things):

Money is something, don't let anyone fool you. You need money for everything but money is not everything.

Nothing is better than a good bra and good under wear, seriously never take it for granted.
That tummy will not flatten itself, you can't out exercise a bad diet neither can you exercise away genes darling. Family is everything, water too. You will like your younger brothers one day and your elder brother too. You haven't met all the people that will shape your life yet.  Do not take your friends for granted. Daughters are everything so are sons (I hope to find out one day). Boys are fantastic men are better ;D . It's not all in your head some of it is real, LOVING IS LIVING and so is giving and finally, this one is for us kids of this age  :)  "ain't nobody business but you and your babe" okay? Over sharing is possible.

I am not afraid of getting older, we spent all our teenage years asking people to treat us older, now we are older we hope people stop calling us Ma and call us by name, but that's the circle of life. I need to get all this experience so I can tell all the people whose lives I will touch my stories and it will make a difference. 


So this is to all the September babies! May you have those journeys where you touch lives and stop living in fear and may you be an inspiration to others, as the age train chases us and we have still not broken the bank let God give us the strength to keep trying because our dreams are valid. Happy Birthday.  


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