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Happy New Year everyone. I am so excited that we made it here and we are safe. That's good. This is my New year resolution post. I usually don't do new year resolutions because as far as I am concerned they are just designed to fail.

I think the flaw is in the grandness of my plans eg. build the first Airplane in Nigeria, how can I do this when 1) I know nothing about engineering 2) I couldn't be bothered to learn. So that's always basically my problems with these resolutions but I am
making an exception this year.
Two reasons, first is I am staring down the barrel at 30 in a few years and I honestly don't want to enter into it in my current state of mind and the second reason is; I am just excited about this year.
I don't necessarily get excited about new years but like a child, children don't really get the potential of a new note book. Only someone who appreciates it when it's full and  the wisdom stored in it. I am wiser now and I am in a very happy place. Not because I have accomplished my goals because I am still on the journey, but because I now have the right frame of mind.

Resolution 1} Remember to be happy: I have a very funny kink, technically I think it's a usage error not a manufacturing error.  When I am happy and my mind can't see an obvious reason it starts playing out all the scenarios that could burst my potential happy bubble so I don't bother dwelling on the happy again. I used to attribute it to my practicality but I am just a hardcore cynic. One of those people who just sucks the joy out of moments waiting for the big one forgetting that it's the little things that matter. So when that wet-blanket part of my brain starts again i have a few choice phrases for it, some Including the F word and Off.

Resolution 2) Remember to live in the moment: This kind of ties up to the happiness thing it is my plan this year to just enjoy moments as they are.

Resolutions 3} Remember to Let it go: I have to learn to let things go. I tend to be tenacious whether in fight or flight. If I get my hooks in it I am not letting it go. I
hope I am less of this this year.   
It helps when this attribute can make money for you, but imagine if you have an argument with this kind of person, you will just want to pull out your hair.


With all these out of the way I reckon we will have a good year. Let's not be afraid of making resolutions. Break them down into smaller, more attainable goals. They kind of make more sense that way. Like if you want to loose some weight instead of saying I want to loose weight you can say I will like to drop 1kg a week and to do this I will eat lighter cut down junk, simple stuff you can do without and then walk up and down my street after work. These seem like small and irrelevant things but they make a difference if you stick. Happy new year folks. Let's do this thing. 

Xoxo

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