Kimi Shy

You are sitting in your house minding your business, the Electricity providers, truck passes by, you are not worried, they back up and stop at your house gate and try to bully your poor gate man to open the gate. You have however given him specific instruction not to let THOSE PEOPLE in again. It’s war. So they call you, you go to meet them and the AEDC people try to intimidate you into opening the gate, for them to check what you don't know as there is no prepaid meter.  They promise to come back another day for more action if you don't show them your bill. Bill you have paid oh, so you relent and show them.                                   The next month they bring a new bill and somehow, with the same amount of light they give you, you have managed to use triple the amount of power you used the previous month.  That first wave of hopelessness is felt before the anger sets i...

Memento Mori; Remember that you will die, or as the  millennials put it YOLO (you only live once).                                 This saying was to remind humans of the vain nature of  life and earthly things, but going beyond this it's also a reminder that our time here is brief and we get this chance once, so what are we doing to live our  lives as best as we can today. We are constantly bugged down with things and things we want to do that make us forget the important stuff, sometime we are bugged down by fear that stops us from taking chances on our selves or those around us. Don't buy a house now till you are married, or start that business you have wanted to start, or take the chance on that guy or girl, give to the needy, help a friend out, whatever it is you want to do to make your life fuller and  happier. All of us have the feeling that we ar...

                                           I always laugh when I have to read all those articles about how to make your relationship last. I have always felt It really isn't up to one thing you do or are doing to get someone to stay with you. Individuals decide this is what they want, and they fight to keep it  no amount of squats, yam pounding, stomach tying and kegles(these may help though, who knows) you do. Unless you have been married for 60 years blissfully and passionately you can't really say right? because even 30 year marriages can end. The part of last year that really killed my happily ever after buzz was the Angelina and Brad split. I was really rooting for them as I have a constant woman crush  on Angelina. While I understand that some view her as a husband snatcher/home wrecker, I don't think she went after his previous marriage wit...

,Little girl, happy voice, hope is the word, see something pretty Daddy's Girl, going to be great, happy heart, so you think I am pretty ,Painful cramps, broken heart, busy mind, don't know that I am pretty ,Big nose, brown skin, brown eyes, nice girl, do you think I am pretty Flat tummy, long legs, thick glasses, slow speech, do you think I am pretty, No food, bitter tea, first class, Glass smile, so I can be pretty, Big bed, late night, hot breath, hate myself, but do you think I am pretty, Smart mind, quick speech, read all, don't matter, do you think I am pretty, Great heart, nice smile, your girl, do you think I am pretty, Hate me, love me, leave me, but do you think I am pretty, .Found my myself, happy again, hopeful again, so I know I am pretty  - YD "Whatever role we had to play, whether it was the tom boy, the wall flower or the blooming beauty, We took it on like  champs...

    She stared down at her shoes, her heart thumping. She didn't want to go inside; she knew everybody had seen the picture Luke took of her. No one said it to her face, but she knew in their hearts, they called her Ashewo. Such a disgusting name. She wasn't ashamed of what she did with him; she was just ashamed that it he hadn't kept silent.  She was not a bad girl; she didn't sleep with men for money, material things or favours. She just let her body and feelings take control and spent one night with a boy she really liked and had a crush on, thinking he was matured. He took pictures without her knowledge or consent and he showed his boys her picture, now she was the girl that was called ‘Ashewo’ in quiet places. She was not the first girl this was happening to; even the girls that slept with married men were calling her names. Like her Aunty said "no be who dey do bad thing, na who carry belle" She tried not to be shamed for something...

                                            People sometime argue that the problem of domestic violence stems from the importance we place on marriage.   But it's much deeper and insidious than that.  I remember going to a bank when I was still single in Abuja. I stood by the entrance and wasted a bit of time because I was trying to figure out what to do with my glass case. The man at the entrance was so rude to me. He called me funny names and said something about aimless unmarried girls filling their bags with useless things. Fast forward to 6 months later. I was wearing an engagement ring by then and went to the  same bank and the same scenario occurred since I have this unnecessary addiction for oversized hand bags (when I am leaving my house everything seems important) and I am a bit clumsy unfortunately or fortunately  (depen...

      This one is dedicated to all the Nigerian girls who can relate. Here's to you.                                                    It's Friday afternoon, the day before Christmas, I am dreading getting up because I have been ignoring my mother's toxic side eye since and now I am just tired. I know how to complain well and I might even have a PhD in it so I turn on my complaining spirit and face it on my sister who is just desperately tired of hearing me groan. ’’Nwa stand up let's just start the work so we can have some breathing space before midnight mass". So we get up and go to the kitchen where my Mum has already stated defrosting ram meat, turkey and chicken for Christmas day. She tells us to get useful frying the buns and ‘puff puff’ from the dough she has already prepared and if we are lucky ‘chin chin’ is ...