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"A good name is better than riches" it is said, but who reputation help?

In a county where we give awards to men and women we know lack integrity just because they are rich. Where the rules that apply to the 1 % don't apply to others...so who reputation help please?

The problem is that the saying is mostly true. A good name is better than riches. There are real life instances that support this and we know them.

In life, nothing holds more influence for people than the word of somebody they trust. Real life is hardly influenced by Facebook posts or social media coverage. People only refer people who they like and who are good at what they do whether they met them on social media or not.

I met a staff member at a clients organisation and the first thing I noticed right off was the bad attitude. Whenever I went back to that office, I did my best to stay out of this staff way and not have any dealings with the person if I could control it. When I did in fact have to deal with the individual, I kept if as brief and as formal as possible even though the organisation was pretty informal.

Subsequently I was called on to do a staff audit and while I tried my hardest to keep my personal feelings out of the equations, I couldn't help the fact that this staff's bad attitude was well known throughout the organisation and they were the first person the team leader recommended for a reshuffle (usually a precursor to a sack).

The attitude was bad not only to teammates and co-workers but also to clients. It brought to mind the ‘stinky diver' tag line from my childhood "a navy commander with an attitude as bad as his odour".  The staff didn’t have a bad odour of course but her attitude did in fact stink.


People may not say it but they remember and nothing is ever harder to forgive than a bad attitude

On the other hand, kindness is the only trait that brings good karma. Your good name is more valuable than any deposit you can make in the bank and that's why people are very conscious of how they are portrayed. That is why gossiping is a sin and slander is a punishable offence. If it didn't mean anything no one will mind.

You remember when someone stands by their word you can say "when she says it she will do it". You remember when someone is honest and you want to work with that person again you say "She is very honest in her deals I will rather work with the person I know", because a good name builds people's confidence in you.

So who reputation help? Well all of US if you ask me.

We can't all be the best at everything. We can't be the prettiest or the sharpest. But we can try to be the kindest and the most honest. The one who people remember keep their word. We can try to be the hardest worker, or the go getter.

We can try to be remembered as somebody who people have faith in and want to meet again.

Don't mess with your good name. 


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