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Beauty and Brains

Which one are you? 

There are three men in the workgroup Adam, Bode and Dubem. Adam is a very good looking man, extremely handsome, wardrobe on fleek and he has that magnetic quality but he really is not smart. Infact the other guy in the office make jokes about the amount of time it takes Adam to get a joke, but Adam gets most of the promotions the female bosses eat out of his hands and the guys in HR love him. Bode on  the other hand is everything that is opposite of Adam. He is extremely smart with an IQ above average, he does not sugar coat his words he is straight forward, is a casual Friday everyday kinda guy refuses diplomacy cause he thinks its unnatural and he refuses to say stuff that's not true. He is kinda easy to ignore in the looks department. Dubem on the other hand is a mix of both. he  is a looker but not as much as Adam. He hates kissing ass and hopes his work will speak for him he has to work really hard on some things but he does okay. He is a casual Friday on Wednesdays kinda guy but he still doesn't get the pecks Adam gets.


What's your currency is it your your beauty or your brains. I started thinking about this after listening to one chapter of Amy Poehler's  book "Yes please" on audible. It's not that people can't be one or the other but sometimes cos of genes or whatever one is more than the other. As we get older in life, we have to decide what we are going to trade on; our brains or our beauty. If a woman's beauty or a man's beauty opens doors for them can you say they deserve it less than if maybe it was their brains that got them in. 


This is intense stuff. In Nigeria especially when we are younger, so much pressure is put on us to be one or the other;  Your parents want you to be first, you want to be beautiful and liked by others for how you look. But as we get older we realise the importance of both especially if you are female, we become conscious of how we look work your but off all the time in hopes that you can look better while still trying to prove to people that you are smart. 

The thing about beauty is that it's alot of work And it messes with the owners mind. If your beauty is your currency then you might be under a little more pressure than others. With beauty, you really have no control over how people perceive it, as the popular saying goes ''beauty is in the eyes of the beholder'' one person's Tyra or Elba is another Persons Plain Jane or Regular Joe. You may do all you need to do but the thing is if you invest more in being beautiful only on the surface you really have nothing more to offer anybody but your ego. Brains are a little less responsibility because to the most intelligent it comes without much effort on their part with some they work hard for it. Then there are people who have the super power of both. They aren't really lucky though because if they have the misfortune of being really beautiful they have to constantly prove that their brains are legit. But it's all good. 

In life we need to pick our currency if you are beautiful embrace it, don't listen to what people say and rock it to get what you need. If you are using your brains, then please go ahead. Rock it and don't try to be what you aren't.  If you have the fortune of both then go ahead and get what you want in life without worrying. It's not going to happen over night tho. But enjoy. 

My top 5 beauty tips.
  1. Laugh alot
  2. Chill out on the craziness all the pple you are mad at have less wrinkles
  3. Ignore it and move on.
  4. Wash that face
  5. Don't starve yourself.


My top 5 tips for keeping it brainy

  1. Read alot
  2. Talk about it with people
  3. Listen to people who know more, I don't mean the talking listening  but the active listening.
  4. Don't be condescending (smart people have a tendency). 
  5. Don't be afraid if it seems hard to think try and push through your blocks

 The million dollar question
 If the two were mutually exclusive what would you rather be. Smart or beautiful.

Let me know your answers in the comment section.

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