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Are you Happy Now?


                                           

The straight line from happiness to unhappiness is a line that most of us have walked. Without regard for the differences in our circumstances, we have marched straight along this line to find that we still did not find what we hoped we would at the end.
Arit and Soyibi were very good friends, they had numerous boyfriends and partied hard and then one day Arit met Fred. It was love at first sight; she dumped all her boyfriends and concentrated on Fred. Soyibi felt left out.
No matter how she tried she realised that none of her boyfriends could ever be like Arit’s Fred. All the rich ones were stingy, all the generous ones had pot bellies and all the rock solid ones were bad in bed, all the good in bed ones who were generous with manageable bodies talked too much and were womanizers, on and on it went but no one was like Fred. He was faithful, rich and generous and from Arit’s lips fantastic in the sack, so she decided that for her to be truly happy she will have to have Fred. She and Arit were not so different after all.
So she began her plan to get Fred. It so happened that one day Fred finally fell in her lap (literarily), she told Arit, the friendship ended but she had Fred.
Arit then moved on to another guy who was so much better that Fred, she forgave Soyibi. Soyibi came to understand the proverb that ‘person wey dey wear fine high heel shoe, na im sabi where the shoe dey pain am for leg’ with the realisation that Fred wasn't even all that sef.
Why did Arit not tell her that Fred was boring as a person, she was always acting like he was the cat's Meow.
Luke was an average sort of guy but he had a taste for the finer things in life. He could never be happy until he had the newest thing. If his neighbour changed girls he changed girls too. If his neighbour changed cars he changed cars too. He could never save because he was always trying to buy the new car. So one day his landlord kicked him out and he had a G wagon no home no money in the bank.
If you want to be an unhappy person compare yourself to other people. 


At work where maybe you are a team member and all you hear is your boss comparing you to another staff, or themselves, what's the effect? Do you feel motivated to do better or you just want to place your leg in front of the other person when they are passing? Sometimes it's a little of both, but not everyone is motivated by envy.
Look at everyone trying to keep up with their mates. Friend buys a car you want a car. Your friends business expands into a shop you too you want an office even when it doesn't make practical sense for you to have one. Friend gets married you cannot sleep because you have to get married, then you get stuck with a monster. Who will bare your cross with you? Save you from your nagging wife or violent husband, who will fix that car or pay those bills in the house?
The sexiest thing in a human being is confidence. You might see 2 women, one fat one slim but the slim one has a mousy way about her and the bigger one stands tall, speaks up and treats herself like a queen. That's the one you find people gravitating toward. While ambition is admirable it becomes unattractive when it’s fuelled by jealousy and not the need to be better or do better because that's really what counts.
Like I say in my post in this skin, it's all about being happy and content and working to get better. We have to remember that we are all in different lanes, you cannot allow someone else's journey decide how happy you are going to be in life.


XO.

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