The
straight line from happiness to unhappiness is a line that most of us have
walked. Without regard for the differences in our circumstances, we have
marched straight along this line to find that we still did not find what we
hoped we would at the end.
Arit
and Soyibi were very good friends, they had numerous boyfriends and partied
hard and then one day Arit met Fred. It was love at first sight; she dumped all
her boyfriends and concentrated on Fred. Soyibi felt left out.
No
matter how she tried she realised that none of her boyfriends could ever be
like Arit’s Fred. All the rich ones were stingy, all the generous ones had pot
bellies and all the rock solid ones were bad in bed, all the good in bed ones
who were generous with manageable bodies talked too much and were womanizers,
on and on it went but no one was like Fred. He was faithful, rich and generous
and from Arit’s lips fantastic in the sack, so she decided that for her to be
truly happy she will have to have Fred. She and Arit were not so different
after all.
So
she began her plan to get Fred. It so happened that one day Fred finally fell
in her lap (literarily), she told Arit, the friendship ended but she had Fred.
Arit
then moved on to another guy who was so much better that Fred, she forgave
Soyibi. Soyibi came to understand the proverb that ‘person wey dey wear fine
high heel shoe, na im sabi where the shoe dey pain am for leg’ with the
realisation that Fred wasn't even all that sef.
Why
did Arit not tell her that Fred was boring as a person, she was always acting
like he was the cat's Meow.
Luke
was an average sort of guy but he had a taste for the finer things in life. He
could never be happy until he had the newest thing. If his neighbour changed
girls he changed girls too. If his neighbour changed cars he changed cars too.
He could never save because he was always trying to buy the new car. So one day
his landlord kicked him out and he had a G wagon no home no money in the bank.
If
you want to be an unhappy person compare yourself to other people.
At
work where maybe you are a team member and all you hear is your boss comparing
you to another staff, or themselves, what's the effect? Do you feel motivated
to do better or you just want to place your leg in front of the other person
when they are passing? Sometimes it's a little of both, but not everyone is
motivated by envy.
Look
at everyone trying to keep up with their mates. Friend buys a car you want a
car. Your friends business expands into a shop you too you want an office even
when it doesn't make practical sense for you to have one. Friend gets married
you cannot sleep because you have to get married, then you get stuck with a
monster. Who will bare your cross with you? Save you from your nagging wife or
violent husband, who will fix that car or pay those bills in the house?
The
sexiest thing in a human being is confidence. You might see 2 women, one fat
one slim but the slim one has a mousy way about her and the bigger one stands
tall, speaks up and treats herself like a queen. That's the one you find people
gravitating toward. While ambition is admirable it becomes unattractive when it’s
fuelled by jealousy and not the need to be better or do better because that's
really what counts.
Like
I say in my post in this skin, it's all about being happy and content and
working to get better. We have to remember that we are all in different lanes,
you cannot allow someone else's journey decide how happy you are going to be in
life.
XO.
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